A Process for Healing Dependency, Resentment, and the Self-Abandonment Complex


From The Nanotechnology of God (The Original Biology)

I. Root Diagnosis: The Self-Abandonment Complex

Core wound:
A history of unmet needs (emotional, physical, psychological) led to a chronic belief:
“I cannot take care of myself, therefore others must.”
To survive, the psyche projects care outward while simultaneously taking on the emotional weight of others to feel needed, valuable, or safe.

Symptoms include:• Chronic resentment when others fail to “show up” • Passive dependence on institutions, partners, or family • Blame as a defense against shame • Emotional exhaustion from over-caretaking or people-pleasing • Anxiety or collapse when facing self-directed tasks

II. Psycho-Spiritual Insight: The Dual Wound Loop

“The one who needed care never got it.
So they became the one who gives care, to everyone but themselves.”

This creates a paradox:
• You blame others when they fail to care for you
• You burden yourself by trying to care for them to earn love or survival
• In both cases, your own center is abandoned

III. The Protocol: A Four-Phase Psychological Activation Self Evaluation

🔹 Phase 1: Recognition

Disarm projection. Witness internalized narratives.

Practice:
• Journal: “Who have I blamed for my unmet needs?”
• Ask: “What was I truly needing, and from whom originally?”
• Observe emotional charge. This is where the core wound lives.

🔹 Phase 2: Responsibility

Reclaim authorship without self-blame.

Key Reframe:

“It wasn’t my fault that I needed care.
But it is now my responsibility to learn how to meet those needs, gently, and over time.”

Practice:
• Inventory daily needs (physical, emotional, financial, spiritual)
• Create a “self-tending plan” with micro-habits
• Begin with small wins to rebuild trust in yourself

🔹 Phase 3: Boundary Repair

Release burdens that do not belong to you

Key Insight:
Caretaking others to avoid abandonment is a trauma response, not true compassion.

Practice:
• Identify whose burdens you are carrying emotionally
• Visualization: Hand back what is not yours (imagine a bag or weight)
• Say: “I release this not from cruelty, but clarity.”

🔹 Phase 4: Reparenting the Self

Build new internal systems of care and stability

Practice:
• Choose a daily ritual of inner connection (e.g., self-dialogue, meditation, body scan)
• Speak affirmations that create safety:
“I am learning to care for myself one breath at a time.”
“I do not have to be perfect to be safe.”
• Seek supportive structures: therapy, peer groups, routines

IV. Integration: Signs of Emerging Sovereignty
• Decreased need to explain or justify your limits
• Clarity in choosing who to help, when, and how
• Freedom from the fantasy that someone else will “save” or “fix” you
• A growing sense of peace in solitude and self-direction
• Replacing resentment with responsibility and discernment

V. Optional Esoteric Closure

“I withdraw all soul tendrils I’ve extended in desperation.
I sanctify my nervous system as sacred ground.
I end false contracts written in martyrdom.
I am the sovereign caretaker of my original biology.”

“It is almost impossible to truly care for oneself while carrying the emotional weight of others. When your arms are full of burdens that were never yours to begin with, you have no hands left to tend to your own wounds. Self-neglect is often not a failure of will, but the byproduct of being cast, knowingly or not, into the role of everyone’s savior but your own.”

By dave

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